Thank you all for the support. I called my husband afterward & he, the eternal joker, was just as astounded & irritated as I was. “I guess we’ll just find another dentist, then,” he said. It was wonderful to have that validation from him. I’ve since canceled that appt. (after politely asking them to make an exception & being refused) and attempted to make an appt. at another office only to be faced with the same problem. That office said that they did occasionally make exceptions — if the child was 3 or younger!
After talking to a friend of mine, I have a possible reason behind it. Apparently some offices use something called a “papoose” — basically they strap the kid to the chair so he (she) can’t move his body or legs & arms. The dental hygienist telling her about it finished up by saying, “so they don’t like to let the parents back to see it — they tend to get upset.” I cannot even tell you how disturbing I find this. Suffice to say I’ll drive hours to a Doctor/Dentist who treats children like people.
While ranting to my Mom, she commented on the Dentist I mentioned — she apparently stopped going & taking us there after he patted/slapped her butt when she was on her way out after a cleaning one day. Oy. She was a bit upset when I told her about the thigh pat/touching — I guess we never told her when we were kids. Of course that’s even more disturbing from the (parental) view I have now. She cracked me up when she said “but he played Christian music in the waiting room!” Um. Yea. I told her that hit a little too close to the whole “Catholic priest & choir boy” thing to me!
Anyhow, I’ll find the boy a good dentist if I have to call every number in the book. One who doesn’t put a few minutes of his/her time & convenience before the safety and well-being of a small child.